Posts Tagged ‘family dynamics’
The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Telling the Truth
How much should an adoptive parent tell a child about their birth family? How should the conversation change as the child grows up? This blog explores developmentally appropriate ways to approach the truth and how to initiate conversations.
Read MoreAdoption In the Media: The Unseen, Unrecognized Struggle of JuJu in “The Chair” TV Series
As an adult adoptee, Marta watched the Netflix series “The Chair” through the eyes of JuJu, the lead’s daughter. “My heart felt rage, grief and deep isolation. I see a child so completely alone in her trauma and loss that she has had to abandon her own narrative.
Read MoreShame and Adoption — A Guide to Parenting with Empathy
Shame is the feeling that we are inherently unlovable, unworthy, and undeserving of connection — and it’s a central theme in adoption. How do we parent without shaming our child? How do we teach values? Here are some empathy-based strategies and phrases to help children make positive choices.
Read MoreImages and Talk of Violence — How Parents Can Help Kids Cope
Images and talk of violence, instability and unrest can disrupt a child’s sense of safety. In BPAR’s post adoption work, trauma is already a theme we commonly address. Here’s how parents can offer reassurance, open a dialogue, and monitor for the need for professional help.
Read MoreHow Forgiveness Promotes Healing
Many in the adoption constellation bear pain due to feelings of loss, abandonment and rejection. Forgiveness promotes healing, but how do we forgive? And for some, why? Here we examine the value of forgiveness, discuss the phases of forgiving, and share resources for putting forgiveness into practice.
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