Adoption
Is a Lifelong Journey

BPAR's specialists are here to guide you.

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At Boston Post Adoption Resources, we understand the challenges and impact that adoption can have on relationships, family dynamics, and identity. No matter what your adoption related question or concern is, you do not have to figure it out alone!

The BPAR mission is to:

SUPPORT

Provide specialized therapeutic support

CONNECT

Connect individuals, families & professionals to resources

EDUCATE

Educate the public about post adoption services

... to ensure that all those touched by adoption lead healthy, productive lives.

BPAR's Clinical Services

Our adoption competent clinicians offer many types of support:

Individual Therapy

Clients throughout
their lifespan

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Family Therapy

Adoptive and
foster families

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Peer Support Groups

Adoptee peers,
parenting groups

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Search Support

Birth family search
& hosted reunions

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Contact us to decide what's right for you or your family.

At BPAR we are committed to the safety of our clients.
We are continuing to provide the majority of our services through telehealth
as long as state and federal regulations recommend this as a best practice.

In the future, when we do offer in-person therapy, we will do it in a way that is as safe as possible.
Our clinicians will discuss opportunities for in-person services when available.

Join Us at an Adoption Support Group,
Wellness Workshop, or Event

Group, Workshop & Event Schedule

Resources for All Touched by Adoption

We offer a comprehensive online Post Adoption Resources Center.

"My family is a one parent, transracial adopted family. SO much beauty and SO much complexity. BPAR helps me navigate and unearth all of it." — Megan C, adoptive parent, BPAR client

"Everyone deserves support to heal from the trauma they have endured, and transracial adoptees are no exception. Support for adoptees has not always been prioritized, in favor of a rhetoric that adoptees are lucky and that their trauma is erased once they have a family. But still the effects of trauma related to adoption and racism are ever present. That’s why adoption support is so important for adoptees and their families." — Malana, adult adoptee

 

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Our Home Is Your Home

"It's a destination point for me, and then when you get to the destination, it's really warm, it's welcoming, it's friendly."
—A FOSTER PARENT

 

"It’s like you’re walking into a home.  I love it.”
—AN ADULT ADOPTEE

Adoption Is a Lifelong Journey

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Here's what's new:

Lack of Control and Feeling Stuck

By KC Craig, LICSW

We feel despair and hopelessness when we lose control of our lives, and this often leads to “feeling stuck.” Here’s how we can feel more confident and less stuck.

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Adoption-Competent Therapy — What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Find It

By Brittany Purrington

Adoption is a word that holds so much under the surface for adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents (the triad) including grief, attachment, trauma, and questions of culture and identity…

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Film Review: Reckoning with the Primal Wound

By Elena Li

Reckoning with the Primal Wound, a documentary, asks us to understand relinquishment trauma. The child and birth mother’s separation is a profound loss that needs to be acknowledged, seen, supported, and cared for.

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Through Every Season — Parenting with Melodies

By Guest Writer

For adoptive parent and songwriter Lissa, memories, stories, and emotions get woven into melodies as she navigates parenting a child with a history of trauma. Learn how she uses songwriting for both communicating and healing.

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Adoption In the Media: The Unseen, Unrecognized Struggle of JuJu in “The Chair” TV Series

By Marta Isabella Sierra, LMHC

As an adult adoptee, Marta watched the Netflix series “The Chair” through the eyes of JuJu, the lead’s daughter. “My heart felt rage, grief and deep isolation. I see a child so completely alone in her trauma and loss that she has had to abandon her own narrative.

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Beyond the GOAT — Celebrating Simone Biles

By Maya Rogers-Bursen, LMHC, Expressive Therapist

Simone Biles has laid an incredible foundation for women’s gymnastics, but she made an even bigger impact on humanity when she opened the world to conversations about adoption and mental health for elite athletes.

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Shame and Adoption — A Guide to Parenting with Empathy

By Darci Nelsen, LMHC, BC-DMT

Shame is the feeling that we are inherently unlovable, unworthy, and undeserving of connection — and it’s a central theme in adoption. How do we parent without shaming our child? How do we teach values? Here are some empathy-based strategies and phrases to help children make positive choices.

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Learn About Our Book:

Adoption Is a Lifelong Journey

Meet Charlie.

He’s the narrator of BPAR's illustrated book, Adoption Is a Lifelong Journey. Charlie’s an adoptee who opens his heart and shares what’s on his mind through various phases as he grows up in his adoptive home.

Here's what two renowned adoption authors have to say about our tool for families and professionals:

"Each page beckons the adults in the room to step into the shoes of the child, providing insights and tools to help educate and empower families and create a healthy environment for children to thrive."
—JEAN A.S. STRAUSS, AUTHOR

"The best book of its kind that I have ever read. All adoptive parents and prospective adoptive parents need to read this book. It is superb."
—JOE SOLL, LCSW, ADOPTEE, PSYCHOTHERAPIST & AUTHOR

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Adoption Is a Lifelong Journey

All proceeds from the sale of Adoption Is a Lifelong Journey support BPAR's mission.

Personal Adoption Stories

Adoptees, birth parents and adoptive families generously share their reflections.

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BPAR Is Grateful for Client Feedback!

"Your extensive list of answers actually brought me to tears.
Until now I have felt alone and unsupported."

—SS, adult adoptee

"I always leave a session with a new thought or perspective.
BPAR nudges me to better myself and to be a better parent."

—Megan C, foster adoptive parent

"BPAR specializes in adoption issues,
and their therapists truly understand how to help me connect with my daughter."

—Ericka, adoptive parent

"I think it’s about the really thoughtful approach that you take.
Steadfast, honest, clear-sighted, intentional, thoughtful advice helps my own development."

—Dan, foster parent

"I need help understanding that part of me so I can get over that hump in life.
You guys opened a path for me. So now I’m just walking down it."

—An adult transracial adoptee

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