Adoption
Is a Lifelong Journey
BPAR's specialists are here to guide you.
At Boston Post Adoption Resources, we understand the challenges and impact that adoption can have on relationships, family dynamics, and identity. No matter what your adoption related question or concern is, you do not have to figure it out alone!
The BPAR Bookshelf
Our Journal for Adult Adoptees:
Voices Unheard:
A Reflective Journal for Adult Adoptees
Our Book for Parents/Caregivers:
Adoption Is a Lifelong Journey
The BPAR Mission
Since 2012, BPAR has provided specialized trauma-informed individual and group therapeutic care and culturally sensitive support. We connect people to post adoption resources and educate the public about the impacts of adoption. Through our services, BPAR invites those touched by adoption to join our community in an environment that encourages lifelong healing.
BPAR's Clinical Services
Our adoption competent clinicians offer many types of support:
Individual Therapy
Clients throughout
their lifespan
Family Therapy
Adoptive and
foster families
Peer Support Groups
Adoptee peers,
parenting groups
Search Support
Birth family search
& hosted reunions
Contact us to decide what's right for you or your family.
At BPAR we are committed to the safety of our clients.
We are continuing to provide the majority of our services through telehealth
as long as state and federal regulations recommend this as a best practice.
When we do offer in-person therapy, we do it in a way that is as safe as possible.
Our clinicians will discuss opportunities for in-person services when available.
Join Us at an Adoption Support Group,
Wellness Workshop, or Event
Group, Workshop & Event Schedule
People of Color Adult Adoptee Support Group
December 23 @ 7:00 pm - 8:00 pmAdult Adoptee Group
January 7, 2025 @ 5:30 pm - 6:30 pmParents of Adult Adoptees Group
January 7, 2025 @ 6:00 pm - 7:00 pmIn-Person Young Teen Group (age 12-15)
January 7, 2025 @ 6:00 pm - 7:00 pmParents of Young Adoptees Group
January 10, 2025 @ 12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Resources for All Touched by Adoption
We offer a comprehensive online Post Adoption Resources Center.
Quick Links to Specific Resources
Read the BPAR Blog
Here's what's new:
Adoption Trauma – Part 1: What is Adoption Trauma?
Few of us stop to consider the earliest experiences that predate the adoption process and how the body and mind might record them as trauma. This is the first of a series of BPAR blogs incorporating adoptee voices and research that will address these issues and the challenges they may cause.
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Dance / Movement Therapy and Adoption-Competent Therapy
Traumatic experiences leave a profound impact on our physical bodies. Sometimes those implicit memories or deeply buried traumas are inaccessible to verbal processing, and only accessed through body-focused and somatic-focused work. Here’s how Dance/Movement Therapy and Adoption-Competent Therapy intersect very effectively.
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How Do You Know if Someone Is Trustworthy?
Trust is hard for people with early childhood trauma and attachment disruptions. As adults who get to choose who we let into our lives, it can still be confusing for us to know who is worth investing our trust in. Here are some general ways to discern if someone is higher up on the trustworthy scale.
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Connecting the Dots: Even Young Adoptees Sense the Loss of Relinquishment
Adoptee Isaac Etter was one of the few people of color in his small town. His family didn’t understand how to broach topics around race or adoption. Most of what he learned about race and racism came from the internet as a teen. But by age five or six he already felt the rejection and abandonment of relinquishment.
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Why BPAR Has to Talk About the Hard Stuff in Life After Adoption
Over the course of our eleven years at BPAR, we have witnessed a drastic change in the complexities faced by the clients coming for post-adoption therapy, especially in the past three years. To address the realities of post adoption challenges, BPAR has to take a stance and do what is right: we have to talk about the hard stuff.
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5 Tips: How to Help Someone Who is Struggling with Addictive Behavior
When you love someone who is struggling with an addiction, it can be heartbreaking, frustrating, and confusing to know how you might help them. As an addiction specialist for thirteen years, these are my top tips that I strongly recommend.
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Adoptee Grief Is Real
Adoptees often feel a sadness they can’t pinpoint. Adoption is rooted in loss, and adoptee grief is real. Yet we don’t hear much about grief in discussions about adoption. Here Lisa Coppola, LMHC shares her podcast about unacknowledged grief with Ken Barringer.
Read MoreBPAR Is Grateful for Client Feedback!
"Your extensive list of answers actually brought me to tears.
Until now I have felt alone and unsupported."
—SS, adult adoptee
"I always leave a session with a new thought or perspective.
BPAR nudges me to better myself and to be a better parent."
—Megan C, foster adoptive parent
"BPAR specializes in adoption issues,
and their therapists truly understand how to help me connect with my daughter."
—Ericka, adoptive parent
"I think it’s about the really thoughtful approach that you take.
Steadfast, honest, clear-sighted, intentional, thoughtful advice helps my own development."
—Dan, foster parent
"I need help understanding that part of me so I can get over that hump in life.
You guys opened a path for me. So now I’m just walking down it."
—An adult transracial adoptee
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