Adult Adoptees
Remembering My Dads As I Hold My Boys
“I’ve seen two dead bodies in my life, and they were both my father. Maybe that sounds like a riddle. Or like a story with a hole at the center. But adoption, you see, is complicated. Because for adopted people there is a hole at the center of our story.”
Read MoreTransracial Adoption Obstacles and How to Address Them (Part Two)
This blog discusses ways to address obstacles that transracial adoptees encounter growing up in white communities, including cultural socialization, ways to talk about identity, giving voice to feelings, and how to focus on the best interest of the child.
Read MoreTransracial Adoption — What Parents Need to Know (Part One)
Much of the research about transracial adoption suggests that adoptees face a range of challenges. For this blog, I interviewed several transracial adoptees and an adoptive parent to hear their first-hand stories about their experiences.
Read MoreLoss on Mother’s Day – How to Cope in the Post Adoption World
Adoption begins with a loss, so it’s normal to feel sad on Mother’s Day. What’s the best way to cope? Here’s how children and adults in the adoption constellation can honor and validate their feelings.
Read MoreWishes to the Moon
As Maya, BPAR’s clinician, packs for her trip to India, she shares the song and blog she wrote to her birth mother. “‘Wishes to the Moon’ is what came from those feelings that escaped my numbness, those feelings that had something to say about my journey back to India where I was born. As I go, so does the record button on my video camera. I am excited to share the journey with you all!”
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